Jun 052012

Because the recap for the Teaching Parent’s Association Convention is going to be rather, um, long, I decided to break it up into a post for each day of the convention. I figured no one wanted to read yet another post in excess of a few thousand words…

For my first workshop on Friday, I chose to attend the seminar by the Institute for Excellence in Writing. It was presented by Phillip Miller and it totally confirmed my decision to use their Primary Arts of Language Writing for the Bugs. I really liked how it teaches the art of writing and it is mastery based, and this workshop made me fall in love. And I was astonished to learn of their 100% satisfaction money back promise. I learned how to use the program and I just simply fell in love. I can not wait to start using this in a few weeks with the Bugs for sure and probably the Beans too (since she hates being left out of anything).

I then attended a workshop by Character First about instilling and teaching our children the values we want them to have. I appreciate that there are people out there who have made a plan to help us parents make sure our children are raised with the virtues of obedience, dependability, responsibility and have written out some fun lesson plans/curriculum to aid us in our endeavor. This is something that is desperately needed for all of society unfortunately. While I did not purchase the Character First curriculum, it was great to sit in on a workshop with other like-minded parents who are seeking to raise children who are different from the world and who will grow up to be world changers.

Todd Wilson was our keynote this year and let me say, if you ever get a chance to hear him speak, please take it (and read his books. I’m in the middle of How to be a Great Wife Even Though You Homeschool). Todd is down to earth, real and funny. He gets his point across in a way that reaches across the different spectrum of people. He has the ability to reach out and draw you in with stories and humor and be applicable to many people at the same time with the truth. This weekend he spoke on not believing the enemy, not comparing ourselves to others and that when things get hard, that is when the good comes.

As homeschool moms, we have a tendency to believe that we aren’t good enough, our homes are messier than everyone else’s, that everyone else’s marriages are better than ours, that all the other children are smarter than ours. None of that is true. As women and homeschoolers, we need to stop listening to those lies about ourselves. We need to accept the fact that no one is perfect, especially not ourselves, and we are lying to ourselves when we think that everyone but us has it all together. No one has it all together all of the time. We need to accept ourselves for who we are, embrace being real to ourselves and find people we can be real with.

We also need to put a priority on our marriages. We can not be¬†successful¬†in teaching our children if we aren’t respecting, loving and honoring our spouses. Without a strong marriage, our families will not be strong. And our children will learn how to love their futures spouses from us. Are you being the wife your husband needs you to be? Are your daughters seeing you encourage and support your husband through everything? Are they seeing you choose to be his helpmeet, serve him and love him? Because they will follow your patterns for marriage. Are your sons seeing you with what I mentioned above? They will be choosing their future wives partly by how they see you treat their father. Do you want your son’s wives to treat your sons the way you treat your husband? Your children will pick up how you treat your spouse, and chances are they will treat their spouse the way you treat yours. Sobering thought, isn’t it?

I think I shall leave you with those thoughts in regards to marriage and being real with others. Think it through and decide if what you are doing is the legacy you want to leave your children. If you have any questions, you can leave a comment or shoot me an email. If you need help in this area, please find some books or a mentor to help you. If you have realized that you hold deep seated anger towards your spouse or there are other issues, please, please, please seek a qualified counselor to help you. Seeking help is not a weakness. It makes you stronger and will bring about the good.