We recently were blessed to attend Dave Ramsey’s Legacy Journey Live in Tulsa. It was an incredible evening of learning how to lay a financial legacy of blessing to our family and those around us. The evening was full of practical application, tons of information, great stories, illustrations and fun. Who knew learning about financial things could be construed as fun, right? It was enlightening and really lit a fire under us to leave a legacy of generosity and blessing.
As the evening wore on, I kept getting more and more excited. This theme of Legacy applies to so much more than finances. And it struck me, we leave a legacy in everything we do. Not just when we die and what we leave behind in our wills.
If you’ve been reading much on here, I’ve hinted that I didn’t have the world’s most perfect family growing up. I was taught that I wasn’t worth much. Following my dreams and what I wanted to do in life would be a waste of time and be selfish to pursue. I was never allowed to know the details of the family’s finances, every time I asked I was told it was none of my business. Nothing I did was every truly celebrated, not graduating high school, not gaining entry to the college of my choice, getting married and giving birth to the grandchildren, it was all treated as if it was nothing too incredibly special (if it wasn’t blown off totally). I wasn’t even allowed to have birthday parties as a child. I was told that birthday parties are nothing more than telling people you want attention and gifts and doing so would be selfish.
It has taken me years to get to a point where I feel good about myself. I no longer have the continuous low sense of self-worth that was bequeathed to me (I still have times where I have to fight reverting back, but I have learned and am accepting of the fact that I am a child of God who’s life does matter and has meaning and a purpose. It is quite a journey and some days are harder than others for sure, but I’m not where I was).
Since I have come so far (finally. It didn’t happen overnight, and it is a process that I go through sometimes daily still) I started to think about my children. What kind of a legacy am I leaving for them? Am I purposefully living a life that gives them a legacy of belonging, love and faith? Or am I destroying them and their sense of who they are?
These past few years have been quite a journey (not just for me, but also for my husband who has been the most amazing support for me during the rough patches, and my greatest cheerleader, the man who believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself, my children as change and grow and even with my extended relatives and friends) and I don’t wish for my children to have to start where I did. So what do I do to give them a head start on living the life they have been called to live?
The answer isn’t simple, nor is it easy. I live my life with their Legacy in mind. I want to leave them a legacy full of blessing, wholeness, love and faith.
And how do I go about that? By being intentional. Welcome to a series of posts that was created the night I attended Dave Ramsey’s Legacy Journey Life in Tulsa. Living intentionally with the end in mind is what I have purposed to do and to share about in the coming weeks. Thank you for following along on this journey.