What is My Legacy to My Children?

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Nov 112013
 

We recently were blessed to attend Dave Ramsey’s Legacy Journey Live in Tulsa. It was an incredible evening of learning how to lay a financial legacy of blessing to our family and those around us. The evening was full of practical application, tons of information, great stories, illustrations and fun. Who knew learning about financial things could be construed as fun, right? It was enlightening and really lit a fire under us to leave a legacy of generosity and blessing.

As the evening wore on, I kept getting more and more excited. This theme of Legacy applies to so much more than finances. And it struck me, we leave a legacy in everything we do. Not just when we die and what we leave behind in our wills.

If you’ve been reading much on here, I’ve hinted that I didn’t have the world’s most perfect family growing up. I was taught that I wasn’t worth much. Following my dreams and what I wanted to do in life would be a waste of time and be selfish to pursue. I was never allowed to know the details of the family’s finances, every time I asked I was told it was none of my business. Nothing I did was every truly celebrated, not graduating high school, not gaining entry to the college of my choice, getting married and giving birth to the grandchildren, it was all treated as if it was nothing too incredibly special (if it wasn’t blown off totally). I wasn’t even allowed to have birthday parties as a child. I was told that birthday parties are nothing more than telling people you want attention and gifts and doing so would be selfish.

It has taken me years to get to a point where I feel good about myself. I no longer have the continuous low sense of self-worth that was bequeathed to me (I still have times where I have to fight reverting back, but I have learned and am accepting of the fact that I am a child of God who’s life does matter and has meaning and a purpose. It is quite a journey and some days are harder than others for sure, but I’m not where I was).
Since I have come so far (finally. It didn’t happen overnight, and it is a process that I go through sometimes daily still) I started to think about my children. What kind of a legacy am I leaving for them? Am I purposefully living a life that gives them a legacy of belonging, love and faith? Or am I destroying them and their sense of who they are?
These past few years have been quite a journey (not just for me, but also for my husband who has been the most amazing support for me during the rough patches, and my greatest cheerleader, the man who believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself, my children as change and grow and even with my extended relatives and friends) and I don’t wish for my children to have to start where I did. So what do I do to give them a head start on living the life they have been called to live?

The answer isn’t simple, nor is it easy. I live my life with their Legacy in mind. I want to leave them a legacy full of blessing, wholeness, love and faith.

And how do I go about that? By being intentional. Welcome to a series of posts that was created the night I attended Dave Ramsey’s Legacy Journey Life in Tulsa. Living intentionally with the end in mind is what I have purposed to do and to share about in the coming weeks. Thank you for following along on this journey.

Looking Back and Looking Ahead, Goals and Dreams

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Jan 022013
 

Ah, I meant to have a great New Year’s post up yesterday. Well, let’s say that I got busy. I woke up yesterday morning and decided that I had to start some deep cleaning…So I started tackling the kitchen. Plus the fact that HubbaHubba has been home since the week before Christmas on his break and all schedules and my version of “normal” went crazy. Don’t get me wrong, we had a great time with HubbaHubba being home, and the girls really enjoyed their daddy time, but I’m ready for our routine to begin again.

Last year didn’t go exactly how I envisioned it to be. I dreamt of having a meme each Friday here on the blog, I was convinced I was going to post more often than I did. I was going to lose a whole lot of weight and keep my home more spotless. I even chose the word discipline for my word of the year.

I failed miserably with my 52 Fridays thing. I mean miserably. I apologize. I should have planned that one out better than I did. I should have followed through on my commitment to it. I didn’t.

I didn’t lose the amount of weight I was wanting to lose. I would start an exercise program, ditch it, not be careful with what I ate. I got to review a great exercise program back last October and I did very well with that. I lost six inches off my girth that month, and believe me, I was so excited. I could notice a difference in how I looked in pictures that had been taken in the last year or so from then. However, I have not kept up with the step aerobics or even the Praise Moves my husband let me buy. I know I need to get started back on the exercise routine. I do actually enjoy the step aerobics and I am really liking the Praise Moves. I love how I feel after I have done them, especially consistently. I find that when I take the time to exercise in the mornings, I get more done during the day, I feel better physically and emotionally and I am more pleasant to be around.

I’m still working on finding a good routine for the exercising and the housework. I did finally settle on laundry days being Mondays and Fridays. That works best for me. I tried doing a little every day, but I always felt like I had never finished it and it was constantly hanging over my head. This way I know it is all done twice a week, plus the kitchen towels and other extras like curtains and bedding on their days. I am still tweaking out the cleaning rotation for the rest of the house though. I tried floors all on one day, dusting all on one day, etc. Then I tried one room a day and it always seemed like when I was working in that one room, the rest would go and explode random stuff out. So, first I am going to start a massive decluttering rampage I suppose you could say. The less stuff you have, the less you have to clean. It also helps that I found out that Hoarders has a few episodes on Hulu at the moment and my husband and I watched a few last evening. Yes, I realize that there are psychological reasons behind hoarding, I don’t think I am that bad, but I am going to do everything in my power to keep from having too much stuff. Having too many things is wasteful anyway the way my husband and I have been thinking anyway and it is time for us to downsize.

So this year, as I’m still contemplating my word or theme for the year I do know I need to incorporate more routine, more exercising and healthy/clean eating, managing the home better, more writing on the blog and being more intentional about taking the time to have fun. I’ll let you know the plan when I have one….

What are you going to do to better yourself this coming year?

Nov 282012
 

My girls are tomboy princesses. By that I mean they love to dig in the yard, climb trees, chase each other, participate in Judo and fall down and scrape their knees.

However, they have been super careful recently…I was sent a tube of Safe Kids Antibiotic Gel to try out….And I only got to try it out on a scratched open bug bite on the youngest. I will say, just one spot on treatment of the Safe Kids Antibacterial Gel and it started healing up right away. Which says a lot because this child just scratches and scratches bug bites and they seem to take forever to clear up on her.

Tube and packaging for Safe Kids Antibacterial Gel

I like the fact that Safe Kids Antibacterial Gel provides antibacterial protection for up to 48 hours, and even protects against MRSA, which has become quite the problem in today’s day and age. The active ingredient is silver which I have used on my family before, and know it works for a variety of issues. I just wish it had a beeswax base instead of a petroleum one as I prefer to not use petroleum based products on my family. However, that won’t stop me from using it if the need arises (though I might wait to use it as petroleum is not my first choice, I think the silver though may outweigh the use of the petroleum, life is a give and take.)

The tube is now kept in the medicine cabinet, just waiting for the next chance to use it. Though, with my luck, it will probably be me…..

If you want to try this out for yourself, there is a coupon you can print to take and get $1.00 off! Just click the image below to be taken to the coupon. (If that doesn’t work, click, HERE)

This contest is now closed. Random.org chose comment number 5 as the winner, congrats Kendra!

If you want to win a tube of Safe Kids Antibacterial Gel for yourself, I’m giving one away! Just leave me a comment below telling me about the craziest thing your child (or your husband or yourself) did to injure themselves. I will use random.org to choose a winner about 10 pm on Friday November 30, 2012 and email the winner. The winner will have until Monday December 3 to email me back with their mailing address or an alternate winner will be chosen. This giveaway is open to those with shipping addresses in the United States.

I was given a tube of Safe Kids Antibacterial Gel for this review and another tube was furnished for the giveaway through BSM Media. All opinions are mine and mine alone. Compensation was received.

Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow by Teske Drake, a Review

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Aug 232012
 

Book cover for Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow

Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow is a book that I wish I had available nearly seven years ago. This book deals beautifully with the pain and grief of losing a child whether through miscarriage, still birth or infant loss. After we had our miscarriage, I searched for something to read that would bring comfort and couldn’t find many books that helped me deal with the pain of losing our Avery. Being the visual print person that I am, I felt the void in my search to find hope, comfort and healing after our loss.

Teske Drake in a white shirt and jeans sitting on a park bench

Teske Drake has been where we are in our journey through life without our precious children. She understands the pain, heartbreak, grief, questioning and sorrow that mothers who have lost a child go through. She has taken her experience with her dark moments in her loss, and written a book that I found to be biblically sound and rooted in scripture to show that through it all, God reigns supreme, and is there for us when we need Him most desperately. Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow is set up to be done in a ten week Bible study format, which is very easy to follow and allows for plenty of time to work through the emotions that will arise from reading this book.

The book is gentle in it’s approach to discussing our pain, yet doesn’t let us leave at the end without having helped us through processing what we are feeling, understanding that yes, it is ok to be sad and to experience the gamut of emotion that comes with the loss of a child and that God knew this was going to happen and will carry us through. With journaling exercises and guided prayers, Teske takes us on a journey to find healing and hope through our long valley of sorrow. Even though it has been seven years since we lost our Avery, and I thought I was doing ok with knowing that he awaits for me someday, this book has still brought comfort and peace to me. I know that my Avery is just fine, in a place where he will never experience the pain of this world and that someday, I shall brush the hair out his eyes and be able to tell him that I love him and I fought hard to keep him. And I will thank him for being a part of my life. Because without having been privileged to have been chosen to be his mom for his very short life, I know that I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t have found the healing I needed from the rest of my past if we hadn’t been blessed with him. This book brought that fact home yet again for me. And while I do long to hold my nearly seven-year-old, I know that someday I will get to, and until then I will love on his little sisters (the eldest of which we wouldn’t have been blessed with if we had been allowed to have kept him. You see, his and the Bugs’ pregnancies overlapped).

I have to say that this book should be on every pastor’s shelf, every woman’s ministry leader’s shelf, every counseling office, and should be made as a gift to every mother who faces the loss of a child.

Teske Drake has also founded Mommies With Hope, a support group for those of us who have had to say good bye to a child too soon. If you wish to purchase the book for yourself or for friend, you can do so HERE. And to see what others thought about Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow, go HERE

On September 20, Teske Drake will be joined by Kim Ketola and Dawn Scott Jones for a Woman Redeemed Webinar. This webinar is to bring hope to women who are hurting through events of their pasts and to encourage them to move on as a Redeemed Woman. Please click the above link to register as I can’t get it to work on the graphic…(guess my tech skills are still on vacation or something).

Please, if you are living with the pain of having lost a child, get this book and take the ten weeks to do the Bible study within. You will find hope and healing.

I was given a copy of Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow by Teske Drake through Litfuse for the purposes of this review. All opinions are mine and mine alone, no other compensation was received. The links within this post are not affiliate links.

Jun 112012
 

I love my girlies.

Girls in their swimsuits in a blue 30 inch pool, waving at the camera

Saturday we set up the pool that Grandma bought us. The girls were ecstatic. They were so patient we let them go in when it still had 4 inches to go to be finished filling.

After church on Sunday, they spent the entire afternoon pretending to be fish.

They slept hard last night 😉 In fact, I tried tickling them and they didn’t even flinch.

Today we woke up to cooler temps and storms. The girls handled the disappointment well when told they couldn’t spend the entire day in the pool because of the weather. In fact, they never whined or complained and were quick to find some other way to occupy themselves. We are currently in a break from the rain so I shipped them outside for a bit.

The Bugs' rainboots. Blue with daisys on them. Of course, they are just sitting there in the yard since she had to take them off as soon as she got outside.

Bugs had her rain boots on. It didn’t take long for them to be shed.

Two pairs of muddy little girl feet

They are coated in mud now. I’m fine with that. Yes, it means extra laundry and I haven’t made a new batch of detergent yet.

I’m going to have to bathe them earlier in the day.

Their clothes may end up stained (at least they wore clothes that came from the play outside bin).

But their laughter and squeals are worth it. They are building memories of the fun of squishing mud between their toes, time with each other and happiness on what could have been a dreary day. They are learning to take what life hands them and to turn it into something positive. Those are skills that right now, they don’t know they are learning. They think they are just having a lot of fun.

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I wouldn’t trade today and it’s storms for the sunny day they wanted. They are learning so much more.

What have you turned around to joy today? What lessons have you seen your children learn from life?

Embrace the learning in the everyday. And look for the joy.

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