I know, I haven’t been posting daily about Lent for the 40 Days of Following Him meme. I guess that I just don’t feel like I have a lot to say that is worthwhile about it. Or at least anything that anyone would want to read about it. So, this is turning more into when I have something worth saying I’ll post (at least if I think I have something worthwhile to say).
For Lent this year, I decided to give up wearing pants. It is all skirts or dresses from Ash Wednesday until Easter. I know, you all probably are thinking I’ve gone off the deep end. Who doesn’t wear pants in this society except the strange off shoots, right? Besides, aren’t pants more comfortable and practical?
Well, not really. I have several normal friends (not religious legalists or belonging to strange off-shoot denominations) who have chosen to wear only skirts and dresses. Trust me, these people are normal, they have just chosen to wear what they have been led by God to wear in an effort at promoting modesty and gender differentiation (male and female were created to be different from each other.) And pants really aren’t that much more comfortable. Maybe for being out in the garden or doing an exercise video pants might be a better choice, but for everything else, there really isn’t much of a difference in convenience.
Men and women are different and we do fulfill different roles (contrary to what our society says). Why should we as women be the same as men? I don’t want to be a man. Nor do I wish to look like a man. One way I can make sure that I am a woman, perceived as a woman and feel more feminine is by not wearing pants. The past nearly two weeks haven’t been that much of a trial in regards to giving up pants. Other than discovering that my favorite skirt was AWOL (found that while cleaning the girls’ closet this weekend. How it got in there is quite the mystery) and only having two skirts for everyday around the house stuff and then my favorite denim skirt for regular stuff and the rest are all nice skirts for things like skirt, I’ve had to do more laundry for myself than I usually do. But I’ve felt more lady-like in the skirts. I feel more feminine. I’ve even been wearing an apron over my skirts more while cleaning the house. I like it. This may be something that lasts long after Lent is over.
And I’ve noticed the girls going with me in this. They go and put on skirts or a dress for the day when they see me in a skirt. They pitched a fit the other day when we went outside to play and I had them put pants on to go out mud puddle jumping, swinging and hanging off the swing set (you have no idea the peep show the neighbors would have been treated to). They see me and want to emulate whatever it is I’m doing. If you have young children, I’m sure you’ve noticed it yourself. It struck me with how hard it is to raise children with how they like to do everything I do. If they see me doing something, of course they are going to internalize it and emulate. Now, is my behavior and choices something I want them to emulate? A lot of times, I don’t think so. So today, think of what you are needing to change in your life so when your children are going to do what you do, you aren’t embarrassed by it. Or when they are adults and do things that you do, you are proud of them and the choices they have made. Now, we aren’t going to mandate the girls wear exclusively skirts and dresses. We are going to leave the choice to them. However, if that’s what mom wears, they will likely be my little copy cats. I’m ok with that. I want them to grow up feminine and lady-like which is so much easier in a skirt. I’m not raising boys (not yet anyway). I’m not raising feminists, I’m raising feminine daughters. Daughters who are different and we can revel in our differences instead of trying to be male.
So, I’m trying to reclaim the culture of femininity for me and my daughters. And reveling in the fact that God created me to be female for a purpose. I do not want to be what I’m not.
There’s my take on Lent today. Sorry for being disjointed. Now, I’m going to go and put on my apron and tackle the kitchen that was neglected this weekend.
This post is linked up over at A House Upon the Rock for the 40 Days of Seeking Him meme. Go on over there and see what others have to say today..
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