Boys and girls are different. They think different, they act different, they are different. Really? No way….
This is one of those books that at first looked very promising. I was excited as I was raised in a family where I had no brothers. Boys confuse me. I taught boys when I taught school, I married a boy and man, they sure are different.
I guess I didn’t need this book to tell me that. Secure Daughters Confident Sons by Glenn T. Stanton is a book that I’m not sure really is needed. At least I didn’t need it. I thought I did though (we don’t have sons yet, just two daughters but we want a few boys too).
This book alternates every other chapter with one about boys, one about girls. It shows you how boys and girls are wired differently (if you’ve ever spent time with children, I hope you have already realized that…) and therefore they act differently and need different responses from their parents to grow and thrive into well balanced, productive adults.
Boys need to be encouraged and taught how to become men. They need to be stretched and affirmed of their masculinity. They need to be able to be boys as they grow up.
Girls need security and be given a sense of value as they grow into women. They need to be affirmed in their femininity and taught that she is a worthwhile person.
I felt like this book summed up what I’ve read in many other books about the differences of boys and girls. Though I did find it a bit hard to follow with the chapters switching from one gender to the other like that. It disrupted my train of thought as I would be thinking about boys, how they think and what they need to thrive when I would get to the end of that chapter, I had to start thinking about girls and what they need to thrive. I understand that this is how you compare and contrast, but I found the transitions, or lack thereof, to be distracting.
Also, when discussing girls, Mr. Stanton always had more illustrations about girls, their behavior and thoughts than he did for the boys. While he has more daughters than sons, that is somewhat understandable, but to me it felt like he felt that he needed to show and explain girls more than he did boys. Perhaps it was because he only has the one son, but for those of us who don’t have any sons yet, it really wasn’t that helpful. I didn’t find that part balanced.
All in all, I’m not sure I can recommend this book for parents or teachers to read. I found it hard to follow, rather dry and it took me longer than I would have liked to wade through it. This book may be the book for you and how you process and think though. It wasn’t for me.
I received a copy of Secure Daughters Confident Sons by Glenn T. Stanton from Waterbrook Multnomah publishing as a part of their Blogging for Books Program for the purposes of this review. All opinions are mine and mine alone and no other compensation was received..